I was born and bought up in Mumbai; India After four
years of marriage had plans of moving overseas; Germany with our 6 month old. I was excited
and little nervous but did landed safely in Germany. Now, it is been more than
two years we are here and below are the few things which I have learnt; few of
them in hard way.
Nothing is Impossible
Now that I was out of my comfort zone; I did realise my
real potential. Things which seemed to be impossible earlier were now just
difficult and possible. Travelling alone with a 6 month old, settling in a new
house with a baby and similar things were no more impossible tasks, just
required little little planning.
Baby is not an Obstacle
I realised baby is not an obstacle for parents to do
anything; be it travel, study or career. You just need to plan things and be
baby proofed. If you want to go on hiking with a 8 month old; yes you can; you
just need the right baby gear. I did study again when my kid was 17 months old
and we did many other things which I saw in India my relatives did not saying;
baby is small we cannot go out to restaurants or even a small outing.
People are alike all around
The normal saying of people back in India was; foreigners
have no feelings, and attachments towards each other. Stop! People are all
same; they too have emotions; and are social animals. Yes, it is common to wear
short clothes here in summer but that does not define a character of a girl
here; unlike in India. The climate demands so and any girl is stalked she does
take action even in a foreign land.
Age is just the number
I keep hearing my in-laws, parents and other relatives
who have crossed 50 years as “Now whatever we live is a bonus” or “This is not
our age to do certain things” and many such notions. Here I see people in their
60’s and 70’s enjoy their life the way they want. They just say we are free now
and healthy this is “The Time.” It somehow gives me an impression that Indians
just want to follow one cycle (birth, study, marriage, kids, become in laws,
see grandkids). Once this cycle is done; they say we have seen everything.
Importance of Hobbies
We did have hobby lessons in school times; however, it is
very difficult to get some time for hobby especially in the fast life of
Mumbai. We are over burdened with socials in most of which we are not
interested, have festivals all round the year and rest of the time we spent in
travelling and traffic (thanks to the potholes). The peaceful life here gives
you an opportunity to cultivate your hobbies thus leading to peace of mind and
house.
More than Indian Family Drama
Admit it we have hell lot of family drama in India. Most
of the social gatherings people are just back biting each other; she did this,
he did not follow his dad, they are living alone, why did she not call me
before you and the list is endless. Give me a break! When you are away from
these things you definitely have peace and you can think far better things.
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